There is no good reason why you should ever lower your standards. Whether it is for yourself, your friends, a boy, etc.
1. Lowering standards for yourself will get you nowhere in life. If you don't have high standards for yourself, why not? You are capable of anything! If you lower your own standards, there is no way that you can be your best self. If you are capable of making a 100, why are you settling with an 87? Nothing worth having comes without hard work. The time you put take to do something is what makes it worth anything at all. Take your time, don't settle for less than you know you can achieve.
2. Don't let your friends lower their standards. If you let your friends lower their standards, are you really their friend? I know that my best friends have told me when I am doing something that isn't up to par with what I stand for. And I love them for that. If you know what your friends goals are for their life, you need to help them achieve it. Help them study for their Spanish test, don't let them go get drunk every weekend, tell them that they are worth so much more than what they are settling for, and if they don't listen, you need to tell them again until they do.
3. Do not lower your moral standards to get a boyfriend. I could go on for days about this one. Do not, I repeat, NOT, let a boy lower your standards. Nothing good comes out of a relationship where you had to compromise your morals. If a guy can't respect you for what you believe in and what you are comfortable with, drop him. He is the one who is missing out. Not you. It might take a while until you find someone who has the same values as you, but it will be so much better for you in the end. I promise, if you give in to doing something that you don't want to do, they aren't going to respect you. They will use you. There is no good reason why talented young women get used by men who don't respect them when they have so much to offer.
4. People like people who have high standards. Believe it or not, people do look up to people who don't give in to peer pressure. If they don't say it now, they will think it later. All of the women that I personally look up to are liked by a lot of people, and they don't need popularity to feel like they are worth something. They find their identity in Christ. You are a daughter of the King. Why do you feel the need to compromise anything? I don't understand why girls are so willing to throw away all of the morals that they used to stand by. It makes you boring. Anyone can do that. It takes a bold person to stand up for what they believe in. In the end, we remember the people who stood for something, not the people who gave in to the pressures of living in a broken world.
Lowering your standards is just a bad idea all around. Surround yourself with people who know what you believe and are willing to respect you and hold you accountable for your actions.
Monday, September 8, 2014
Wednesday, August 6, 2014
Reasons to be Modest Instead of Hottest
1. Being hottest will get you nothing in the long run. Beauty is fleeting. When you are old, you are not going to have your perfect bikini body, your long flowy undamaged hair, perfect skin, etc. You are going to have your personality, your sense of humor, and whatever you find important. I know it's hard to imagine, but one day, not a single person is really going to care about how cute you were in middle or high school. There has actually been a study proving that women who were super popular in middle and high school have more problems with self image when they grow older. I don't know about you, but that's not something I want to deal with.
2. Self respect. It doesn't matter how attractive you are, you HAVE to like yourself before others will really like you for who you are. It's not fun to not like yourself, and it's not fun for your friends to have to deal with you not liking yourself. You are fabulous, so treat yourself like it. Don't let the little voice in your head tell you that you look like an ogre. Even if you feel like you should be the star of Shrek 4, think about things that make you feel good about yourself. If you flaunt your body around, you aren't going to attract the kind of friends that you deserve.
3. Respect from others. Here's the thing. If you are worried about your image and how you look all the time, you are going to attract friends who are worried about their own image and how they look all the time. The minute that they decide you aren't cool enough to hang out with them they will leave you in the dust. Focus more on your own inner strengths and the people who you will attract will see that in you rather than how ugly you looked last Friday.
4. Your future depends on it. No future employer, college, sorority, etc., wants to look on your social media and find a trashy girl. If you are trashy now you can retain a trashy reputation for a long time afterwards. Set some standards for how you want to be seen. Think about this: You are an employer at a top company. You just interviewed two young women who both seemed PERFECT for the job. They both have the same qualifications, so you decide to look at their social media. Do you hire the girl who posts pictures with barely any clothes on, but would be considered "in"? Or would you rather do business with the you woman who has pictures in cute clothes that cover everything appropriately? Personally, I would hire the woman who dresses like a respectable businesswoman.
I know, it is really hard to be a girl in this day and age, especially with all the media around us promoting us to show off what we have. Make it easier for the girls behind us and don't go around half dressed.
2. Self respect. It doesn't matter how attractive you are, you HAVE to like yourself before others will really like you for who you are. It's not fun to not like yourself, and it's not fun for your friends to have to deal with you not liking yourself. You are fabulous, so treat yourself like it. Don't let the little voice in your head tell you that you look like an ogre. Even if you feel like you should be the star of Shrek 4, think about things that make you feel good about yourself. If you flaunt your body around, you aren't going to attract the kind of friends that you deserve.
3. Respect from others. Here's the thing. If you are worried about your image and how you look all the time, you are going to attract friends who are worried about their own image and how they look all the time. The minute that they decide you aren't cool enough to hang out with them they will leave you in the dust. Focus more on your own inner strengths and the people who you will attract will see that in you rather than how ugly you looked last Friday.
4. Your future depends on it. No future employer, college, sorority, etc., wants to look on your social media and find a trashy girl. If you are trashy now you can retain a trashy reputation for a long time afterwards. Set some standards for how you want to be seen. Think about this: You are an employer at a top company. You just interviewed two young women who both seemed PERFECT for the job. They both have the same qualifications, so you decide to look at their social media. Do you hire the girl who posts pictures with barely any clothes on, but would be considered "in"? Or would you rather do business with the you woman who has pictures in cute clothes that cover everything appropriately? Personally, I would hire the woman who dresses like a respectable businesswoman.
I know, it is really hard to be a girl in this day and age, especially with all the media around us promoting us to show off what we have. Make it easier for the girls behind us and don't go around half dressed.
Sunday, July 20, 2014
Why Chivalry Seems Dead
Chivalry: courteous behavior, especially that of a man toward women.
I do not think chivalry is actually dead. I think that women have stopped expecting it. It has become a pleasant surprise when a boy holds the door open for you, or walks you to your car when you leave. Somewhere along the line, we forgot to expect things like this. And I don't like it.
I shouldn't have to wonder if a boy is going to knock on the door and meet my parents before a date. It should be expected. And you know why it's not? Because one time there was a girl who didn't respect herself enough to expect any more than a honk from outside. The problem isn't that boys aren't respectful, the problem is that we don't respect ourselves. It's our job to have standards for how we want to be treated.
"Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows"
-Luke 12:6-7
God knows the number of hairs on your head. We are so precious and valuable to Him. I don't understand why the female race has decided that none of us are good enough. Too many girls in this generation don't think they deserve a boy who knows how to be a gentleman. This is where the problem lies. If we don't think we deserve to be respected and treated like we are fearfully and wonderfully made, then who will?
Imagine, a boy honking his horn at you to make you come outside. If you go get in the car, you just subconsciously told him that it's okay if he treats you like crap. But imagine if you came out and told him that you are worth more than a honk, and you will not be joining him for dinner tonight. Two things would happen: 1) You would gain some self-respect, and 2) Congratulations, you just avoided going out with someone who wasn't worth your time. He would probably never ask you out again, but he probably wasn't the one anyway, and he probably wouldn't honk at the next girl who he takes out.
So, chivalry isn't dead. It's still out there, just waiting for you to realize that you are worth it.
I do not think chivalry is actually dead. I think that women have stopped expecting it. It has become a pleasant surprise when a boy holds the door open for you, or walks you to your car when you leave. Somewhere along the line, we forgot to expect things like this. And I don't like it.
I shouldn't have to wonder if a boy is going to knock on the door and meet my parents before a date. It should be expected. And you know why it's not? Because one time there was a girl who didn't respect herself enough to expect any more than a honk from outside. The problem isn't that boys aren't respectful, the problem is that we don't respect ourselves. It's our job to have standards for how we want to be treated.
"Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows"
-Luke 12:6-7
God knows the number of hairs on your head. We are so precious and valuable to Him. I don't understand why the female race has decided that none of us are good enough. Too many girls in this generation don't think they deserve a boy who knows how to be a gentleman. This is where the problem lies. If we don't think we deserve to be respected and treated like we are fearfully and wonderfully made, then who will?
Imagine, a boy honking his horn at you to make you come outside. If you go get in the car, you just subconsciously told him that it's okay if he treats you like crap. But imagine if you came out and told him that you are worth more than a honk, and you will not be joining him for dinner tonight. Two things would happen: 1) You would gain some self-respect, and 2) Congratulations, you just avoided going out with someone who wasn't worth your time. He would probably never ask you out again, but he probably wasn't the one anyway, and he probably wouldn't honk at the next girl who he takes out.
So, chivalry isn't dead. It's still out there, just waiting for you to realize that you are worth it.
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
You Can't Curl Half Your Hair
Well, I guess you could. But it would look really bad if one half of your hair was curled and the other half was stick straight. That's not really the point. My question is: Why would you half-do anything?
It doesn't help you at all to only halfway do something. It doesn't even make sense. You are given every opportunity for a reason, and that reason is not to halfway do it. Everything you are doing is in preparation for something else. And don't you want to be well prepared to handle anything life throws at you?
The Lord is preparing you for something great. He does everything for a reason. He gives us the opportunity every day to be extraordinary for Him. Live up to your potential. There are so many times in my own life where I have thought, "Wow, I wish you would have paid attention," or "I wish you would have done that as well as you know you can." We don't have to live that way. We shouldn't live that way.
Why do we settle for mediocrity? We all tend to think that if we do just enough, we will pass through life just fine. Do things to the best of your abilities, you were given them for a reason. Sometimes you can even do more than what's expected of you. It will be hard. But if we all went the extra mile just a little more often, I think we would all live the extraordinary lives we were meant to live.
It doesn't help you at all to only halfway do something. It doesn't even make sense. You are given every opportunity for a reason, and that reason is not to halfway do it. Everything you are doing is in preparation for something else. And don't you want to be well prepared to handle anything life throws at you?
The Lord is preparing you for something great. He does everything for a reason. He gives us the opportunity every day to be extraordinary for Him. Live up to your potential. There are so many times in my own life where I have thought, "Wow, I wish you would have paid attention," or "I wish you would have done that as well as you know you can." We don't have to live that way. We shouldn't live that way.
Why do we settle for mediocrity? We all tend to think that if we do just enough, we will pass through life just fine. Do things to the best of your abilities, you were given them for a reason. Sometimes you can even do more than what's expected of you. It will be hard. But if we all went the extra mile just a little more often, I think we would all live the extraordinary lives we were meant to live.
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Do it for The Vine
Vine. A collection of 6-second videos to entertain the people of the World. I do not have an account, however, all of my friends do. And a number of my friends have the desire to be "Vine Famous."
A large quantity of vines involve people doing crazy things "for the vine." That's a new phrase, "Do it for the vine."
But I think we should be focusing on a different Vine. People are too concerned with things that aren't eternal. Somewhere along the line, becoming famous for 6 seconds is now worth more than having eternal life in heaven.
"I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing." John 15:5
He is THE VINE. We can't really do anything without Him. No 6-second video is better than that.
So, I guess what I'm saying is, don't do it for "the vine," do it for The Vine.
A large quantity of vines involve people doing crazy things "for the vine." That's a new phrase, "Do it for the vine."
But I think we should be focusing on a different Vine. People are too concerned with things that aren't eternal. Somewhere along the line, becoming famous for 6 seconds is now worth more than having eternal life in heaven.
"I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing." John 15:5
He is THE VINE. We can't really do anything without Him. No 6-second video is better than that.
So, I guess what I'm saying is, don't do it for "the vine," do it for The Vine.
Sunday, July 6, 2014
Why I Hate Texting
Yes, texting is an integral part of everyone's lives nowadays. Yes, it is the easiest and fastest form of communication. I know, texting is a great invention that we couldn't live without. But that's not what I don't like.
What I find ridiculous about text messaging, iMessage, Kik, DM, etc., is how people feel the need to use it ALL THE TIME. There is literally no good reason to be in communication with someone at every waking moment of your day. I don't care if they are the love of your life. Put your phone down.
I strongly believe that texting causes the downfall of relationships and friendships. Here is why:
1. What do you even talk about for that long? Small talk is obnoxious, especially over technology. I hate to break it to you, but no one cares about what you ate for dinner, they are just trying to keep the conversation alive. It gets to the point where the other person knows your every move. Not only is that creepy, but also annoying.
2. There is no sense of mystery. There is no thinking, "Hmm, I wonder what they're doing today?" because you already know everything they did. How is that fun? I don't get it.
3. If you use all your conversation topics on your texting conversation, what do you plan to talk about in person? It's way more awkward to not be able to have an intelligent conversation in person than it is to say "gtg bye". If you can't hold a conversation in person, people are not going to take you seriously.
4. You have a life. It's not attractive to not be busy. Personally, I enjoy when people are doing something productive instead of texting me. It shows that they are hardworking individuals who have a plan for the future. And that's attractive.
5. Finally, and most importantly, it's disrespectful to pull your phone out when you're with your friends, family, peers, business partners, basically anyone. The people who are in front of you in real life are WAY more important than whatever is happening on your phone. What are you even going to say over text that is of any importance? Save your important conversations for when you are talking to someone in person. Show some respect, and put your phone up.
Overall, I am just confused as to when we stopped sending short, to the point texts about where the party is or to let people know we were thinking about them, and started having 12-hour long texting conversations that take away from real social interaction.
What I find ridiculous about text messaging, iMessage, Kik, DM, etc., is how people feel the need to use it ALL THE TIME. There is literally no good reason to be in communication with someone at every waking moment of your day. I don't care if they are the love of your life. Put your phone down.
I strongly believe that texting causes the downfall of relationships and friendships. Here is why:
1. What do you even talk about for that long? Small talk is obnoxious, especially over technology. I hate to break it to you, but no one cares about what you ate for dinner, they are just trying to keep the conversation alive. It gets to the point where the other person knows your every move. Not only is that creepy, but also annoying.
2. There is no sense of mystery. There is no thinking, "Hmm, I wonder what they're doing today?" because you already know everything they did. How is that fun? I don't get it.
3. If you use all your conversation topics on your texting conversation, what do you plan to talk about in person? It's way more awkward to not be able to have an intelligent conversation in person than it is to say "gtg bye". If you can't hold a conversation in person, people are not going to take you seriously.
4. You have a life. It's not attractive to not be busy. Personally, I enjoy when people are doing something productive instead of texting me. It shows that they are hardworking individuals who have a plan for the future. And that's attractive.
5. Finally, and most importantly, it's disrespectful to pull your phone out when you're with your friends, family, peers, business partners, basically anyone. The people who are in front of you in real life are WAY more important than whatever is happening on your phone. What are you even going to say over text that is of any importance? Save your important conversations for when you are talking to someone in person. Show some respect, and put your phone up.
Overall, I am just confused as to when we stopped sending short, to the point texts about where the party is or to let people know we were thinking about them, and started having 12-hour long texting conversations that take away from real social interaction.
Monday, June 30, 2014
You Are Awesome
That's right, I said it. You are awesome. So why are you settling for a boy who isn't right for you?
There is literally no good reason to settle for anything less than the best. Do NOT let anyone tell you otherwise. Not your sister, your bff, your mom, your neighbor, your pet fish, ANYONE. I promise, it is not worth it.
But what if my expectations are too high? Unless you are expecting some perfect Prince Charming to pop up out of the blue, I think you will be okay. Sometimes even Prince Charming isn't right for you, just ask Blair Waldorf. Sure, she ended up with the dark knight, but let's be honest, she did not settle for Chuck Bass. Chuck was not perfect, however, he proved to her that he was worth her time. Blair made him own up to his mistakes and show her that he was worthy of her trust before she agreed to give him a chance. Why should we be any different? We all deserve someone who will fight for us, as well as admit when they are wrong. I think that's more impressive than any castle in France.
Why is it taking so long? Good things come to those who wait. In the Bible, Jacob worked for SEVEN YEARS to marry Rachel, only to be disappointed in the end. And you know what? He worked for another seven years so that he could actually marry Rachel. If you do not know this story, I encourage you to read Genesis 29. He loved her SO much. Fourteen years is a long time to wait when you are literally on the same property as the one you love. But to him, it felt like a few hours. It was worth the wait.
What if he never comes? He will come. While you wait, focus on what The Lord can use you for while you are single. Hang out with your friends and family. There is a plethora of things to do while you wait for someone who deserves you. Do not waste your time giving yourself away to boys who don't mean anything to you, don't treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and who aren't going to stick around when things get tough.
Do not settle for someone who is not worth your time or attention. The right man will come along, and he will be worth the wait.
There is literally no good reason to settle for anything less than the best. Do NOT let anyone tell you otherwise. Not your sister, your bff, your mom, your neighbor, your pet fish, ANYONE. I promise, it is not worth it.
But what if my expectations are too high? Unless you are expecting some perfect Prince Charming to pop up out of the blue, I think you will be okay. Sometimes even Prince Charming isn't right for you, just ask Blair Waldorf. Sure, she ended up with the dark knight, but let's be honest, she did not settle for Chuck Bass. Chuck was not perfect, however, he proved to her that he was worth her time. Blair made him own up to his mistakes and show her that he was worthy of her trust before she agreed to give him a chance. Why should we be any different? We all deserve someone who will fight for us, as well as admit when they are wrong. I think that's more impressive than any castle in France.
Why is it taking so long? Good things come to those who wait. In the Bible, Jacob worked for SEVEN YEARS to marry Rachel, only to be disappointed in the end. And you know what? He worked for another seven years so that he could actually marry Rachel. If you do not know this story, I encourage you to read Genesis 29. He loved her SO much. Fourteen years is a long time to wait when you are literally on the same property as the one you love. But to him, it felt like a few hours. It was worth the wait.
What if he never comes? He will come. While you wait, focus on what The Lord can use you for while you are single. Hang out with your friends and family. There is a plethora of things to do while you wait for someone who deserves you. Do not waste your time giving yourself away to boys who don't mean anything to you, don't treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and who aren't going to stick around when things get tough.
Do not settle for someone who is not worth your time or attention. The right man will come along, and he will be worth the wait.
Friday, June 27, 2014
About Me
My favorite things to talk about are: God, the south, deep thoughts, funny animal pictures, southern scenery continuously not posting my pictures, college football.
Current favorite Bible verse: "And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns." Philippians 1:6
Current favorite Bible verse: "And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns." Philippians 1:6
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