Why Chivalry Seems Dead

Chivalry: courteous behavior, especially that of a man toward women.

I do not think chivalry is actually dead. I think that women have stopped expecting it. It has become a pleasant surprise when a boy holds the door open for you, or walks you to your car when you leave. Somewhere along the line, we forgot to expect things like this. And I don't like it.

I shouldn't have to wonder if a boy is going to knock on the door and meet my parents before a date. It should be expected. And you know why it's not? Because one time there was a girl who didn't respect herself enough to expect any more than a honk from outside. The problem isn't that boys aren't respectful, the problem is that we don't respect ourselves. It's our job to have standards for how we want to be treated.

"Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows"
-Luke 12:6-7

God knows the number of hairs on your head. We are so precious and valuable to Him. I don't understand why the female race has decided that none of us are good enough. Too many girls in this generation don't think they deserve a boy who knows how to be a gentleman. This is where the problem lies. If we don't think we deserve to be respected and treated like we are fearfully and wonderfully made, then who will?

Imagine, a boy honking his horn at you to make you come outside. If you go get in the car, you just subconsciously told him that it's okay if he treats you like crap. But imagine if you came out and told him that you are worth more than a honk, and you will not be joining him for dinner tonight. Two things would happen: 1) You would gain some self-respect, and 2) Congratulations, you just avoided going out with someone who wasn't worth your time. He would probably never ask you out again, but he probably wasn't the one anyway, and he probably wouldn't honk at the next girl who he takes out.

So, chivalry isn't dead. It's still out there, just waiting for you to realize that you are worth it.