Chivalry: courteous behavior, especially that of a man toward women.
I do not think chivalry is actually dead. I think that women have stopped expecting it. It has become a pleasant surprise when a boy holds the door open for you, or walks you to your car when you leave. Somewhere along the line, we forgot to expect things like this. And I don't like it.
I shouldn't have to wonder if a boy is going to knock on the door and meet my parents before a date. It should be expected. And you know why it's not? Because one time there was a girl who didn't respect herself enough to expect any more than a honk from outside. The problem isn't that boys aren't respectful, the problem is that we don't respect ourselves. It's our job to have standards for how we want to be treated.
"Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows"
-Luke 12:6-7
God knows the number of hairs on your head. We are so precious and valuable to Him. I don't understand why the female race has decided that none of us are good enough. Too many girls in this generation don't think they deserve a boy who knows how to be a gentleman. This is where the problem lies. If we don't think we deserve to be respected and treated like we are fearfully and wonderfully made, then who will?
Imagine, a boy honking his horn at you to make you come outside. If you go get in the car, you just subconsciously told him that it's okay if he treats you like crap. But imagine if you came out and told him that you are worth more than a honk, and you will not be joining him for dinner tonight. Two things would happen: 1) You would gain some self-respect, and 2) Congratulations, you just avoided going out with someone who wasn't worth your time. He would probably never ask you out again, but he probably wasn't the one anyway, and he probably wouldn't honk at the next girl who he takes out.
So, chivalry isn't dead. It's still out there, just waiting for you to realize that you are worth it.
Sunday, July 20, 2014
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
You Can't Curl Half Your Hair
Well, I guess you could. But it would look really bad if one half of your hair was curled and the other half was stick straight. That's not really the point. My question is: Why would you half-do anything?
It doesn't help you at all to only halfway do something. It doesn't even make sense. You are given every opportunity for a reason, and that reason is not to halfway do it. Everything you are doing is in preparation for something else. And don't you want to be well prepared to handle anything life throws at you?
The Lord is preparing you for something great. He does everything for a reason. He gives us the opportunity every day to be extraordinary for Him. Live up to your potential. There are so many times in my own life where I have thought, "Wow, I wish you would have paid attention," or "I wish you would have done that as well as you know you can." We don't have to live that way. We shouldn't live that way.
Why do we settle for mediocrity? We all tend to think that if we do just enough, we will pass through life just fine. Do things to the best of your abilities, you were given them for a reason. Sometimes you can even do more than what's expected of you. It will be hard. But if we all went the extra mile just a little more often, I think we would all live the extraordinary lives we were meant to live.
It doesn't help you at all to only halfway do something. It doesn't even make sense. You are given every opportunity for a reason, and that reason is not to halfway do it. Everything you are doing is in preparation for something else. And don't you want to be well prepared to handle anything life throws at you?
The Lord is preparing you for something great. He does everything for a reason. He gives us the opportunity every day to be extraordinary for Him. Live up to your potential. There are so many times in my own life where I have thought, "Wow, I wish you would have paid attention," or "I wish you would have done that as well as you know you can." We don't have to live that way. We shouldn't live that way.
Why do we settle for mediocrity? We all tend to think that if we do just enough, we will pass through life just fine. Do things to the best of your abilities, you were given them for a reason. Sometimes you can even do more than what's expected of you. It will be hard. But if we all went the extra mile just a little more often, I think we would all live the extraordinary lives we were meant to live.
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Do it for The Vine
Vine. A collection of 6-second videos to entertain the people of the World. I do not have an account, however, all of my friends do. And a number of my friends have the desire to be "Vine Famous."
A large quantity of vines involve people doing crazy things "for the vine." That's a new phrase, "Do it for the vine."
But I think we should be focusing on a different Vine. People are too concerned with things that aren't eternal. Somewhere along the line, becoming famous for 6 seconds is now worth more than having eternal life in heaven.
"I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing." John 15:5
He is THE VINE. We can't really do anything without Him. No 6-second video is better than that.
So, I guess what I'm saying is, don't do it for "the vine," do it for The Vine.
A large quantity of vines involve people doing crazy things "for the vine." That's a new phrase, "Do it for the vine."
But I think we should be focusing on a different Vine. People are too concerned with things that aren't eternal. Somewhere along the line, becoming famous for 6 seconds is now worth more than having eternal life in heaven.
"I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing." John 15:5
He is THE VINE. We can't really do anything without Him. No 6-second video is better than that.
So, I guess what I'm saying is, don't do it for "the vine," do it for The Vine.
Sunday, July 6, 2014
Why I Hate Texting
Yes, texting is an integral part of everyone's lives nowadays. Yes, it is the easiest and fastest form of communication. I know, texting is a great invention that we couldn't live without. But that's not what I don't like.
What I find ridiculous about text messaging, iMessage, Kik, DM, etc., is how people feel the need to use it ALL THE TIME. There is literally no good reason to be in communication with someone at every waking moment of your day. I don't care if they are the love of your life. Put your phone down.
I strongly believe that texting causes the downfall of relationships and friendships. Here is why:
1. What do you even talk about for that long? Small talk is obnoxious, especially over technology. I hate to break it to you, but no one cares about what you ate for dinner, they are just trying to keep the conversation alive. It gets to the point where the other person knows your every move. Not only is that creepy, but also annoying.
2. There is no sense of mystery. There is no thinking, "Hmm, I wonder what they're doing today?" because you already know everything they did. How is that fun? I don't get it.
3. If you use all your conversation topics on your texting conversation, what do you plan to talk about in person? It's way more awkward to not be able to have an intelligent conversation in person than it is to say "gtg bye". If you can't hold a conversation in person, people are not going to take you seriously.
4. You have a life. It's not attractive to not be busy. Personally, I enjoy when people are doing something productive instead of texting me. It shows that they are hardworking individuals who have a plan for the future. And that's attractive.
5. Finally, and most importantly, it's disrespectful to pull your phone out when you're with your friends, family, peers, business partners, basically anyone. The people who are in front of you in real life are WAY more important than whatever is happening on your phone. What are you even going to say over text that is of any importance? Save your important conversations for when you are talking to someone in person. Show some respect, and put your phone up.
Overall, I am just confused as to when we stopped sending short, to the point texts about where the party is or to let people know we were thinking about them, and started having 12-hour long texting conversations that take away from real social interaction.
What I find ridiculous about text messaging, iMessage, Kik, DM, etc., is how people feel the need to use it ALL THE TIME. There is literally no good reason to be in communication with someone at every waking moment of your day. I don't care if they are the love of your life. Put your phone down.
I strongly believe that texting causes the downfall of relationships and friendships. Here is why:
1. What do you even talk about for that long? Small talk is obnoxious, especially over technology. I hate to break it to you, but no one cares about what you ate for dinner, they are just trying to keep the conversation alive. It gets to the point where the other person knows your every move. Not only is that creepy, but also annoying.
2. There is no sense of mystery. There is no thinking, "Hmm, I wonder what they're doing today?" because you already know everything they did. How is that fun? I don't get it.
3. If you use all your conversation topics on your texting conversation, what do you plan to talk about in person? It's way more awkward to not be able to have an intelligent conversation in person than it is to say "gtg bye". If you can't hold a conversation in person, people are not going to take you seriously.
4. You have a life. It's not attractive to not be busy. Personally, I enjoy when people are doing something productive instead of texting me. It shows that they are hardworking individuals who have a plan for the future. And that's attractive.
5. Finally, and most importantly, it's disrespectful to pull your phone out when you're with your friends, family, peers, business partners, basically anyone. The people who are in front of you in real life are WAY more important than whatever is happening on your phone. What are you even going to say over text that is of any importance? Save your important conversations for when you are talking to someone in person. Show some respect, and put your phone up.
Overall, I am just confused as to when we stopped sending short, to the point texts about where the party is or to let people know we were thinking about them, and started having 12-hour long texting conversations that take away from real social interaction.
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